30 Ways Husbands Can Love Their Wives

One of my favorite verses on marriage for husbands is Proverbs 5:19, "... be intoxicated always in her love." Nowhere in the Bible do we find any command to be intoxicated except in Proverbs 5:19. I love that. Husbands are to be so in love with their wives that from the outside it appears that they are intoxicated. Make note: this does not happen naturally. Day-by-day, ever Husband is called to take intentional action to develop a deeper, more intimate romance in their marriage. So, here are thirty ways Husbands can love their wives:
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1. Take your wife out to dinner and tell her how you've seen God's grace at work in her life recently.
2. Devote an evening a week for the next two months to read through a book to strengthen your marriage (idea 1, idea 2)
3. Cut something from your budget and use that money to date your wife.
4. Schedule a weekend to watch the kids and send your wife off for a personal retreat.
5. Find a married couple whose marriage is struggling. Adopt them for five months. Take them on double dates once a month for the next five months and coach them toward a healthier marriage. 
6. Pray with your wife every day for the next thirty days.
7. Make a list of ten things your wife loves to do. Each time you take your wife on a date, do one of those ten things together.
8. Start a hobby with your wife.
9. Write a small note describing why you are thankful for your wife for the next ten days.
10. Spend an evening reading a book of the Bible out loud together.
11. Go to dinner and see a movie that your wife wants to watch.
12. Take an evening, after the kids are in bed, to ask your wife intentional questions.
13. Take a twelve-month honeymoon with your wife. Relive your honeymoon by scheduling a twenty-four-hour getaway for every month of the year. Each month go somewhere new with your wife.
14. Watch the kids one night and have your wife go out with her friends for dinner.
15. Think about something your wife never had as a girl and give that to her.
16. Write a love letter to your wife. Tell her all over again what she means to you.
17. Give your wife a massage.
18. Tuck your wife into bed. Kiss her. Pray over her. Stroke her hair as she falls asleep.
19. Invite your wife to work. Ask her to come to visit you at work so that she can see your world away from home.
20. Serve your wife breakfast in bed.
21. Go on a walk.
22. Sit down with your wife and write down all that you are both thankful for, together.
23. Draw a bubble bath for your wife and tell her to stop what she is doing and hop in.
24. Assign a day of "bed rest" to your wife. Make her take a day to rest, relax, and not accomplish anything productive.
25. Call your wife in the middle of the day to say, "I love you."
26. Pick a TV show you and your wife like and watch it together every week.
27. Cancel work for the day and do something special with your wife.
28. Prepare a basin of soapy water and wash your wife's feet.
29. Notice when your wife is unusually tired, drained, or stressed out. On such days step in and take one or two responsibilities off your wife's plate.
30. Eat apart from your kids occasionally. Let the kids eat pasta at a kids' table while you dine by candlelight with your wife in the adjoining room.

​*I've adapted a few of these ideas from Justin Buzzard's excellent book, Date Your Wife. I highly recommend it.